The mutual ghost


I sometimes go on those dates where during it I think that this person is not for me but if they asked me out again then I’d considered it. If they are the arseholes then it’s block, delete goodbye but if it’s a nice guy then I do wonder how they feel about me. Maybe my vanity and curiosity but I usually reserve the ‘thank you, but I didn’t feel a spark’ text for those that I’m really not interested in. For those in between I wait it out and see what happens. When I say wait, it’s usually only a day. If someone was interested then surely 24 hours to send a message isn’t asking too much; unless there has been a grave emergency. And for me I would expect it sooner. 


So this is what leads to the mutual ghost. You have a pleasant date and you stay matched on the dating app but neither of you message EVER again. At least the feeling is mutual and it saves the embarrassment of laying your cards out if the other person is not interested and face rejection, but a tiny part of me is curious to know why they didn’t like me. Having done enough interviews in the past, part of me wants that feedback; although I probably wouldn’t want to hear it. I know not everyone is everyone’s cup of tea but the curiosity in me would like to know. 

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